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The Origins of Entitled F*cks

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When I returned to Canada in 2013 after living in China for 8 years, one of the first things I noticed was that younger people (aka “Millennials”) were acting strange. I couldn’t put my finger on it – talking to them just seemed weird. And it wasn’t just Millennials. To a lesser extent, older people I knew, those who never left Canada (or even their home province, for that matter), were also acting strange. My first thought was that they seemed whiney, as in – they whined a lot. In addition to this whininess, the younger ones were wildly confident – almost in a delusional kind of way.  Read More

Dying from Herpes

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Maybe you were a huge slut in your 20s, or maybe your partner engaged in group sex parties without telling you, or maybe you enjoyed putting on your best friend’s mom’s lipstick because she’s a total MILF.

No matter how you got herpes, it is here to stay. And, if it already hasn’t punished you enough, someday it might even attack your brain and kill you. That’s when it goes from your run-of-the-mill blistery itchy herpes to full-out I-wanna-eat-your-brain herpes.

So I’d like to share with you briefly my close encounter with herpes encephalitis. Read More

Calafou – An Experiment in Collective Living

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If you’re all about alternative lifestyles, collective living might be for you. Taken from Jamie Bartlett’s book The Dark Net:

Calafou is an experiment in collective living. It is currently run and managed by its thirty or so permanent residents, in partnership with an organisation called the ‘Catalan Integral Cooperative’ (CIC). CIC’s vision is to find new ways of living sustainably, ethically and communally outside the capitalist system, based on the principle of economic and political self-determination.

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The Brompton Cocktail Makes the Pain Go Away

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“Treatments for pain came in strange concoctions. One was called the Brompton cocktail—a combo named for the English hospital where it was used: morphine, cocaine, Thorazine, honey, gin, and water—which read to me like a concoction some street junkie would come up with, but which I’m told was pretty effective.”

Taken from the book Dreamland: The True Tale of America’s Opiate Epidemic. 

The cocktail was originally meant for terminally-ill cancer patients to relieve pain and be more sociable while on their death bed. Read More

Straight Guys Bumming Trannies on the Regular – The New Western Norm

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Females from Anglo countries often try to push their internationally unpopular world views onto foreigners and foreign countries. Does it make any sense to do this? How would we react if the opposite were to happen?

In VICE’s The Mobile Love Industry, The Digital Love Industry, and BBC’s Sex in Strange Places Trilogy, you see the American or British female host trying to push her Third-Wave feminism ideology on females in countries like Russia and Turkey that, for the most part, think Third-Wave Feminism is ridiculous. Read More

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Shanghai’s Three Most Exciting Time Periods of the 20th Century & the Sexy Zhang Ziyi

By | China, Learning Chinese, Sex and Relationships | No Comments

Jasmine Women (simplified Chinese: 茉莉花开Mòlihuā kāi; literally: “Blooming Jasmine”) is a 2004 film starring the lovely Zhang Ziyi.

Zhang plays the youngest of three generations of women who lead lives in Shanghai, China, during the city’s most exciting time periods.

Mo, in 1930’s Shanghai (1);

Li, in 1950’s Shanghai (2)

Hua, in 1980’s Shanghai. (3)

String the three names together and you get “MoLiHua” (茉莉花)- the Chinese word for “Jasmine”, hence the movie title “Jasmine Women.” Read More

Chinese Rules for Talking to Foreigners in the 1970s

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Below are a few excerpts from a book that is still banned in China called Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China, by Jung Chang. The snippets below describe the author’s experience of talking to foreigners for the first time in 1975 in Zhanjiang and Guilin.

It was a time when China was still enduring its Cultural Revolution (1966-1976) and there were rules to be followed when talking with “barbarians”.  The rules were severely strict at the time but they are humorous by today’s standards.  Before the early ‘70’s merely speaking with a foreigner was both forbidden and illegal – you could be thrown in jail. Read More

Since When is the Term “Oriental” Racist?

By | China, Cultural Differences | No Comments

After spending almost a decade in China, my return to Canada was not without surprises.  I was quite astounded when I discovered that I’ve become sexist, anti-ageist, and a chauvinist.  If that isn’t bad enough, I’ve recently been made aware of the fact that I’m also a horribly racist person.

Over all those years I was under the false impression that the term “Oriental” was an untainted term used to describe people from East and Southeast Asian, and more particularly those from China, Korean, and Japan. Read More

This is What Happens When You Bring a Robotic Chinese Babe-Maid into a White Household

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(Spoiler alert! This post includes details from the entire first season of the new British-American science fiction TV show Humans, which debuted on June 14, 2015 on Channel 4 and AMC.)

What happens when you bring in a hot Chinese babe-maid into a white household? The new TV show Humans explores the various possibilities.

Humans, Channel 4’s most highly rated drama since 1992, explores the emotional and societal impact of living side-by-side with “Synths” – robotic assistants/helpers that are almost physically undisguisable from real human beings. Read More

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High (Education) Maintenance: My Experiences as a Tutor in Shanghai, China

By | China, Cultural Differences, Drugs, Life of Damien | No Comments

Visualize The Guy – that nameless marijuana dealer of the hit web series High Maintenance (trailer below).

I was that Guy in Shanghai, but instead of weed my product was a tutoring service.  And my clients were not colorful New Yorkers, but super rich expat kids who attended the most expensive international high schools in China. Below is a peek into the not-so-normal lives of my four students: Jessica, Cindy, Justin, and Caprice. Read More

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Why is China Kicking Ass? Explaining Chinese Values and Behaviors via the Three Teachings: Buddhism, Taoism, and Confucianism

By | China, Cultural Differences, Health and Diet | No Comments

To what does China owe its success? What are the forces that has shaped Chinese society and thinking? To better understand China, as well as present-day Chinese behavior, values, and world view, it is important to understand the country’s three historic schools of thought: Confucianism, Taoism, and Buddhism. Read More

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So Many Reasons to Live in Taiwan over Shanghai: Dick in a Box, Girls, Amphetamines, Surfing, and More

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After experiencing 10 bleak months of polar-vortex-grade winter during my 2-year stay in Canada, I came up with the novel idea of, funds permitting, spending my next winter in a warmer part of the world.

My first choice would be Thailand, but because my Canadian friend Max, who had also lived in Shanghai for many years, has been raving about Taiwan, a country I have never been before, I decided to explore this option. Read More

How Buddha Saved a Chinese Bookie turned Peruvian Drug Lord: Chino

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I once tutored a Chinese bookie named Oliver. We were introduced by a mutual lady friend, a law student who I met at Windows, a popular dive bar in Shanghai. She thought Oliver and I would get along. Once a week he would pay me 60 dollars for a two-hour session, which included a massive free meal. Definitely not my highest paying client, but it wasn’t a bad deal considering what went on. Read More

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Why Our Standard of Beauty Went from Fit to Fat – “It’s What’s Inside that Counts”

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“It’s What’s Inside that Counts” – it’s funny how this phrase only seems to exist in Western cultures. Western society wants us to think that concentrating on a person’s outward appearance is shallow. They wants us to imagine that the heavy-breathing 300 pound lady in front of you in the Walmart checkout line with a cart full of cheesies has a really good personality, not in terrible health, and that having a baby with her wouldn’t be the biggest mistake of your life. A less extreme example would be Kim Kardashian’s giant butt on the cover of Playboy Magazine. Somehow this is now deemed beautiful in our society. Read More

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Fifty Shades of Grey: Why did our gender neutral society pay 500,000,000 dollars to watch a woman get treated like dirt?

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With all the rape and sexual assault cases in the news this past year, making men look like power-hungry sex-crazed maniacs, it’s interesting to note that our “gender neutral” society, in which both genders are neither dominant nor submissive, paid 500 million dollars to watch a movie about a power-hungry sex-crazed maniac treat a woman like dirt.

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Keys to the VIP: Pickup Tips I’ve Learned from Watching All 39 Episodes

By | Cultural Differences, Life of Damien | No Comments

There are numerous books and videos available to help you improve your “game”.  There’s Neils Strauss’ The Game, books on evolutionary biology and psychology, Robin Baker’s Sperm Wars, Matt Ridely’s Red Queen, Richard Dawkin’s Selfish Gene, Robert Greene’s The Art of Seduction  and last but not least the TV series The Pickup Artist (Seasons 1 and 2).  I have had personal exposures “in the field”, and more than a few successes, but it was only when I watched Keys to the VIP (KTTVIP) that I realized how terrible my “game” really is. Read More